Learning Or Studying: Parents Know The Best!

Learning Or Studying: Parents Know The Best!

Learning Or Studying: Parents Know The Best!

-By Gauri Sachan

As I opened my laptop and entered my roll number, my heart was pounding. My breathing was heavy and was feeling an utter rush of anxiety in my body. I was scared and felt helpless. The loading sign disappeared and my marks were in front of me. I couldn’t clear the cutoff. It was like the end.

 Ever since class 7th, I have only heard one thing studying is the most important in life. No one ever talked about learning. I had a teacher in my school, who was the best teacher in the department. He was offered jobs from various research-based institutes and universities to teach the student, but he refused. Because, he believed, that learning is more important than studying. And if this habit is inculcated into students from such a young age, they can do anything. Alas, society and my parents who were brainwashed by society, had a different mindset. Get into the race of struggle, because some random person quoted that, “success lies in front of hard work”. I.e, we need to work hard for achieving something which we don’t even want. We are basically stealing that chance from someone who wanted it but couldn’t work harder than us.

 Hard work is surely a key to success. But it’s only applicable if we are interested in the “success” they talk about. A writer who got forced to code on a computer, a painter forced into suture a patient, a speaker forced into law, an athlete forced into a cubicle office room. This is the life our generation is living in. The Z generation of talent is chained by brainwashed and judgemental people. Kabil bano kabil, kamiyabi to jhak maar ke peeche aaegi, I saw this movie with my parents. They were too intimidated by the characters and did a career counseling of me. Which was mostly just them talking and me nodding to whatever they say. Like a puppet acting upon the threads pulled by the puppeteer. “Parents know their kids the best”, yes they do. But they don’t know the talent that their kid is more comfortable in telling his friends than telling his parents. We can blame this on parents all we want. But the truth stands out. Puberty struck us so hard, that instead of talking about feelings, stress, and problems with our parents, we rely on our peers. Which ends up creating a communication gap between our parents and us. We all are to blame in the scenario that has got created here. The samaj brought a barrier between us and our parents, by changing everyone’s mindsets. 

 Maybe we should try breaking this barrier and create a bridge to talk ourselves out. Although its never too late, but good things might not always come to those who wait. Maybe its time to consider the knowledge and learning over marks and studying.